That Love Thing... Why the Biblical Definition Matters

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Like many couples, when my husband and I were married we chose to include a portion of 1st Corinthians in our wedding vows.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails…” (1st Cor. 13:4-8 NIV)

The mere reading of that passage of scripture didn’t necessarily make the words so; it did, however, remind us that love and its meaning were not to be so easily dismissed during times of trial.

The apostle Paul didn’t just dream up the definition of love. The words were God-breathed from the Author of love through Paul.

For writers of faith-based romance, it’s important we keep the biblical definition of love foremost in our minds.

However, as we write, we’re aware that the tension and conflict within our novels is also a must. Without them, there’s no story. To paint our characters without faults, foibles, and occasional battles is unrealistic. Boring.

We want to create characters who are like us—imperfect and not without blame—while demonstrating God at work in their lives.

We want to kick fallacies to the curb and meet readers where they are. We want to address real-life issues, but not offend. We want to offer the meat and potatoes in our stories, but not go overboard on the gravy—the intimacy.

While today’s Christian fiction and faith-based romance novels are not what they were 20 or so years ago, we recognize that there’s still the need for propriety.

Too, writers don’t want to write (and most readers don’t want to read) namby-pamby stories about cardboard cut-out characters.

Gone are the days where Sally Sweetness and Adorable Andy shared a malt and small talk down at the local drugstore while Sinister Sam plotted how to steal Sally away from Andy.

Lame premises won’t work. We may read to “escape” for a bit, but reading about Dave and Debbie’s wild day at the county fair isn’t what most of us have in mind.

Though I adore nostalgia, I realize that life just isn’t what it was a few decades ago.

In today’s world, Christians are dealing with death, divorce, addiction, unfaithfulness, lawlessness, accountability, and a host of other issues. They are dealing with the very things that Christians dealt with in times past with this exception: today we’re dishing about these issues, and quite openly, in fact.

Now, since I write Heartfelt, Homespun (Christian) Fiction, I have some personal convictions about what I will and won’t write about.

I will tackle real issues in a sensitive manner.

I won’t depict gratuitous lifestyles without recognition of sin, and ultimately, repentance.

I will incorporate (gentle) love scenes but not anything so shocking that it would offend mothers or daughters, or more importantly, my Savior.

In other words, I won’t be the one writing the fly on the wall, play-by-play bedroom scenes.

Don’t misunderstand. I like romance as much as the next person. I like reading it. Obviously, I like writing it.

Since I want to keep the focus on Christ, however, I’m deeply aware that the words I write should always reflect the love of Jesus Christ first and foremost. Any other relationship is secondary.

As I craft my stories, I’m cautious about deviating from my ultimate purpose: to spread God’s message of hope and redemption.

I strive for a balanced view of realism, romance, purpose, and spirituality. I’m not preachy or pretentious and my stories and characters reflect that.