Twenty years ago, the world of writing was a much different scenario. Writers had fewer irons in the fire and more time to create. The internet was still new, a “social media presence” unheard of, and snail mail the order of the day.
Today, we have the ability to research from home at the touch of a keyboard. We can step into whatever forms of social media we’re comfortable with. We can even upload our manuscripts and email them directly to our critique partners and agents. Because of advancements in technology, writers’ lives are easier now.
To a degree.
Like with most positives, there are bound to be a few negatives, too. The grass isn’t always greener as most of us know. We still have to work our socks off.
I wish I’d known two decades ago what I know today. I’d have saved myself time, trouble, and energy if only I’d had the knowledge then that I’ve learned the hard way in recent years. But alas…sometimes, our mistakes (and beginner-itis) really are the best teachers.
(And let me just say, too, when we’re forced to put our writing on hold for a season–or several–the state of things change. Not the actual writing so much as the many hats we now must wear. Our need to stay afloat presents us with daily calls-to-action.)
But I digress.
Here are some things I’d really like beginning writers to know:
1. Take writing classes. Read craft books. Join writing organizations. Go to conferences. No matter how well-read you think you are, there’s always room for growth and improvement. These things are necessary in your learning curve, and rarely, are there short-cuts.
2. You can’t rush the process. Don’t try. Savor it like a fine wine. Get to know your writing voice and take the time to study the ebb and flow of your own writing style. What works? What doesn’t?
3. Don’t worry so much about what others think. Yes, DO be professional. Don’t sweat the small junk. We’re all human–we’re gonna make some blunders. (Someday I’ll write a post about the minor boo-boos I used to stress over.)
4. Put away your self-comparison hat. We all know that, but yes, sometimes it’s hard. Especially when Dynamic Dan brags about cranking out 3,091 words a day. Or when Super Sally gushes about her 78th manuscript she just wrote. And edited–already. But–Dynamic Dan or Super Sally aren’t you. You’re unique and you’re doing your own thing–on God’s timetable. No one else’s matters.
5. There WILL be sacrifices. Housework may have to be delegated. Outside activities may require some forethought. You’ll have to choose a work schedule that best suits your needs and then stick to it.
6. Develop the art of saying “no.” Yes, it has a negative ring to it, but where your work and time infringements are concerned, “no” is a necessity. “No, I can’t walk your dog.” “No, I don’t polish silver.” “No, that committee isn’t for me.”
Over the years, I’ve learned to say “no” quite gracefully. As in, “I appreciate you thinking of me, but I’m afraid I’ll have to pass.” OR “No, thank you. I’m writing during that time.”
7. Don’t burn bridges. Harsh words or ugly attitudes scream “difficult.” If you feel like you’re about to grab the match, eat chocolate instead!
8. Reward yourself along the way. When a writing goal is met or a career milestone accomplished, celebrate! Take a few days off. Call a friend. Do something special that marks the occasion.
9. Ask for help. While busy professionals may not have time to read your 600 page manuscript, perhaps, they might critique the first 3-5 pages. Use good judgement when asking, and be in tune to “no, thank you” cues. Critique partners in a mutual give-and-take relationship are a great resource (not to mention, encouragement).
10. Limit your social media time. Don’t sit on Facebook or burn up Twitter, Pinterest, or some other platform with your precious writing time. DO blog regularly and maybe one or two other things you’re comfortable doing.
BONUS:
11. WRITE that book! Get going! You can do it!
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Happy Friday and Blessings Always,
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Beth: It’s a learning curve, for sure!
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Heather: Yes, I always try to take the “high road” when possible. And hear-hear to boundaries! (I consider the situation at hand, but I do have some firm rules in place where my writing is concerned.)
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Melissa: You’re speakin’ the truth, gal! Hard work? Wow! That’s an understatement, isn’t it? Twenty years ago, I really no idea…
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Jill: You’re so welcome!
Great list, Cynthia. I’ve lit a few bridges afire on those “off” days and wished I didn’t. Those days, when I’m in the dumps and feeling my writing career is flailing, I ask my closest writer peeps to keep me off the blog comments, otherwise I’m likely to say something not-so-uplifting! And choosing critters and beta readers wisely–very good advice. Discernment on those things comes only after numerous critiques, where you decide to listen to that voice inside telling you which way the story SHOULD go. And saying no! I used to be good at that as far as being a homeschooling mom, but now I’m realizing I need to accept the fact that I am a work-from-home mom. My home IS my office. So I have to figure out boundaries.
Good, GOOD stuff, Cindy. My advice: be ready for hard work. It’s easy to think storytelling is this dreamy, pie-in-sky state of being…but I’ve found the real magic is in the rewrites. In the hard work. In tearing a story apart and revising until I get it right. In taking the advice of trusted writing mentors and friends…it’s hard work, but oh so worth it!
Thank you for your words of wisdom, Cynthia!
Thanks for the helpful list. Priorities seems to be the underlying message, and I’m still working on that.
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Patti, it’ll come! (And priorities are always a delicate balance for us writer-moms!)